Counselling Many people believe that wanting to see a counsellor says something negative about them. Whatever problems they may be dealing with are then exacerbated by the thought that this is what they have come to, needing to see a stranger to help with a problem or problems they should be able to solve, or deal with themselves.
How many times do we use the word 'should' and 'must' in our everyday language without actually examining what makes them 'shoulds' and 'musts?' Many of the 'shoulds' we impose on ourselves lead us to live emotionally stressful lives. But, there are always times we need someone else's help. Sometimes we just need to speak to someone confidentially, without being judged, to help us find a way of dealing with what we are experiencing.
As a counsellor I am not here to advise you how to live, or think, and act. I will sensitively listen to you, and then reflect on what you have said. I will work with you to clarify what the problems are and then ways of accepting, changing, or overcoming them.